Not wanting to deal with problem
It’s human nature to not want to deal with problems.
However if you keep using human nature to justify why you don’t seek for help, then over time it gets harder and harder and eventually you’d lose all confidence in your ability to ask for help and change your life.
It doesn’t have be like this. If you are financially challenged and cannot seek professional help now, you don’t want to just do nothing.
Start with your friends. Find someone you feel comfortable talking about sensitive issues with. This will be a good beginning.
The thing about asking for help is you need to practice it until you get comfortable. Getting comfortable asking for help is the key. Most adults go through life “alone”, meaning even if they are married, they really don’t ask their spouse for help at all.
It’s against the American culture to feel weak, appear weak and act weak. So there is definitely a cultural barrier you need to break through in order to have a peace of mind when you ask.
Online Forum Communities Offer Invaluable Help
One way to not shock yourself but still help yourself is simply not to push yourself into a situation where you’ll appear weak in person in front of strangers (including your doc), when you’re still not feeling comfortable.
Online forum community can be a great choice for you if you know where to find a friendly community.
There are many help group online dealing with issues like insomnia, relationships, breakup, and career dilemma. I personally had problem sleeping, so I frequented Insomnialand.com which runs a popular php forum.
And I used to frequent the sober24.com community running an asp.net forum for many years.
Before I had the courage to deal with issues head on, these forum communities are really a god send.
However, remember not to limit yourself to online options only.
Great Self Help Begin at Home
The self-help movements made popular by the famous 12 step program enables many people to get out of old habits and old problems.
Do you realize most of these people who dug themselves out of a rut began at home?
Where else is safer than your own home? You can be sure to make big progress if you stick to your home as the place to begin cultivating self confidence.
Most people don’t realize that sometimes a period of loneliness is a gift in disguise. In solitude, you don’t have to attend to other people’s emotions and thoughts, which are often things you don’t need when you are emotionally or physically weak.
A period of quietness allows you to get in touch with yourself, which is a luxury in our over socialized world. Most people who feel lost are actually lost in relationships, so being with yourself immediately rid yourself of the conditions that cultivated all your problems.
So your own home is actually a good place to start building up your energies and readying yourself for future challenges.
Taking baby steps
Rome wasn’t built in one day. Your problems likely developed over a period of months, if not years. Don’t be hard on yourself and give yourself unrealistic goals to try solving everything at once.
Make a bit of progress and be proud of yourself.